We’ve had a bit of a struggle with our 8yo. She just doesn’t seem to be connecting to her violin at all. You may have read some previous posts about music practice with the youngest one. In the last few months, it’s just been really really hard to get her to enjoy the violin and practice. Each practice is a real struggle.
Is it the parents? Is it her? Is it the violin? Is it the teacher? Is it the music she’s working on? Is it too many other things on? Is it the fact I play the violin too?
What a decision to make as a parent – after much thought, we’ve decided to give it a break. I don’t want to force her to learn something she doesn’t have any interest in. I know there’s the virtue of not giving up when it’s getting hard, but in this case, I’m pretty sure, the violin is just not the right instrument for her at this moment in time.
Wifey borrowed a book on choosing the right instrument for your child. We had a bit of a laugh reading through it as there are major generalisations on personality and instruments – but there did seem to be some truth behind it all. I think the personality of our 8yo just doesn’t fit the meticulous fine motor skills required for the violin right now – maybe, and I really do hope, she will come back to it in the future.
We don’t want her to give up a musical instrument altogether. So as a compromise, we asked her if she’d like to learn the piano properly. And she’s loving it! She actually can’t stop playing it, even every time she walks by it. I’m not sure if it’s the excitement of a different instrument, but it’s rewarding to see her so excited and enthusiastic about it.
The only problem I have with the piano is that it’s not an orchestral or band instrument. It would be good for her to pick up an instrument with regular large ensemble capabilities in the future… but that can wait… she’s only 8!